Me & Counselling

     

     

 Hello. I am Manisha Karkhanis. I have pursued BA Psychology, PG Diploma in Personnel Management, PG Diploma in School Psychology, ECCED. I am working from last 7 years in counselling field. My aim is to guide people to overcome confusing situations & help to focus them to choose the right direction in their life.

         MY EXPERTISE AREAS :-

1) Guidance about parenting skills.

2) Improving communication between parents & children. 

3) Handling sibling issues.

4) Adolescence issues like , relationship problems, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, aggressiveness etc.

5) Help to find out potentials in the person & guide accordingly.

6) Personality development. Find out personality traits. 

7) Management of emotional issues.

8) Groupism issues, peers issues, self esteem, ego, adjustment issues. 

9) Women counselling. 

       WHY DO WE NEED A COUNSELLOR :- 

   
       Everyone deserves peaceful mind & smooth realtionships in the life. As we all know nowadays our life is very stressful. Daily we are dealing with many difficulties & stress. So there are higher chances that we would damage our mental health. The counsellor is a professional person who helps us to overcome stressful situations & guide us in achieving our goal of life. Many times we are surrounded with negative thoughts, we might feel helpless, in that case also the counsellor 's guidance is useful to change our negative thoughts in posive one. Effective counselling is useful in personal development. It also helps to change perspective of the person towords the life. The main goal of the counsellor is to listen issues in detail & counsel you about how to deal with the situation in a postive attitude. 

         Here in my blog I am going to mention various aspects of psychology & counselling.

I will also add some questionnaires about personality, behaviour, adjustment etc. For any queries please comment in the box, I will definitely solve your queries.

PARENTING :-

Raising kids is never easy. Every child's first world is just surrounded by parents. The children are always observing their parents all the time. The parents are rolemodel for their children. But if the parenting is not well performed then it may disturb smooth realtionship between parents & children. Such disturb relationship may be develop into aggression, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, low confidence, insecurity etc. for the children. So always parents & children relationship should be well balanced. 

There are 4 well known parenting styles :- 

 AUTHORITARIAN PARENTING:- 

This parenting style is a one way of communication where parents set their own rules & children have asked to follow them strictly. There is no any mutual discussion between parents & the children. Mistakes usually lead to punishment. Authoritarian parents are in the category of less nurturing, having high expectations with limited flexibility. 

AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING:- 

It is one of the most effective parenting style. It maintains a balance between structure & nurture. This parenting style gives positive reinforcement & encouragement to their children rather than punishment , over scolding etc.

PERMISSIVE PARENTING :- 

This parenting style seems to have No Discipline Approach.  It involves abundant parental love & warmth but lack of boundries , rules & expectations. Kids who are parented permissively often act entitled, egocentric& selfish. There is no parental control over the children. 

UNINVOLVED PARENTING :-

It is also known as neglectful parenting. In such parenting style there is lack of emotional attachment, lack of interest in child's any activities, no rules & expectations for child's behaviour, no control of parents, absence of parental support & guidance . It is just like a Hands - Off Approach of parents towords their children. 

HOW TO DEAL WITH KIDS:- 

Sometimes it is very difficult to maintain smooth realtionship between parents & kids.There may be many reasons behind such situations.It is said that parenting is a skill. Yes its absolutely true that to handle a child emotionally is really a great skill.  A few days before,  I was conducting the case of a boy who was just 7 years old. His mother was complaining that he was not at all talking in home, not answering parents questions. He was not having much friends. Initially my first session was with the parents. When I was talking with the parents, I found  that both parents were working at higher position & both were very ambitious, over expecting from their child. Financial position was well to do.

 When I talked with the child , he was very afraid & was not getting easily openup for talking with me. In such cases the children are not easily ready to start up communication. We need to take some extra efforts to make them open up for the communication. After such efforts he came to a comfort level of talking with me.  From our communication I came to know that the child was very much pressurised by his parents. He compelled to join many classes for extra curricular activities such as drawing, abacus etc. in which he was not at all interested. But his parents were not considering his interest. Both of the parents were interested in that their child should be all - rounder. His schedule was so packed up with classes that he was not getting time to mix up with friends. As a result he was not having much friends. He was all the time under the pressure of completing all homework of school as well as other classes. As a result of all this he was very introvert & can't express his feelings with anyone. I understood the case. In such cases parents are in need of counselling rather than children.  

                I had advised the parents:- 

 * Not to pressurise your child to become all rounder. As everyone is different & having different capacities. 

* Rearrange his schedule with less classes so that he could spend some time with his peers.

* Whenever you got free time talk with your child & spend some time in playing with him.

* Ask your child for his opnion about matters related to your family & also respect his opinion. 

* Encourage your child to take small decision & appreciate his right decisions. 

* If anything is wrong in his behavior, then explain him properly instead of scolding.

               For the next session when whole family came together , I found that the child was happy as his busy schedule was changed & having healthy relationship with his parents

         The reason of explaining this case here is that many families & children are facing such problems. I hope most of the parents would agree with my opinion. I had just mentioned the case in few words due to limitation of space & my time.

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